Stella Damasus Addresses ‘Husband Snatching’ Saga; Says Nobody Asked Why Daniel Picked His Son and Walked Away From His Marriage


Nollywood Actress and screen diva, Stella Damasus has in an interview addressed the “husband snatching” allegation leveled against her after she moved on to a new lover Daniel Ademinokan following the crash of her relationship with Jaiye Aboderin.

Excerpts below:

How did you come about getting married to your first husband, Jaiye Aboderin, at the age of 21?
I always wanted to start (married life) early. I always wanted to have children early. I wanted to have an early marriage; I wanted to grow with a family. I wanted to learn the inside of it. I didn’t want to wait and grow, and mature, and become big and famous then start to wonder’ oh, will anyone marry me now’. I didn’t want that to happen because at 16 I was already popular. I was making money; I was travelling. So at that point looking at my life, I said, if I do this for another five, six, seven years and I don’t start a family, it will become more difficult for me later on. So, I decided to find somebody who I love, who will love me back, we will go together. We will fight all the fight and make up; we will do whatever but we will grow old together. And that’s what happened.

But did you regret that decision?
I am happy I made that decision; because today I have a 17-year-old. I grew up with my children. When you see the three of us, and you see my daughters, you will think we are sisters. And we talk as friends. So it was an important thing for me to have a family (early). We have a tendency to be crazy and do whatever we like because we could get away with anything. We could travel all over the world. We could get people to like us like this (snaps finger): we hid money to throw around. If I didn’t have that family unit to check me, I don’t know what I would have become and I won’t lie about that.

How true is your relationship with Daniel Ademinokan?
Let me put it this way; let me help you hit the nail on the head. One of the comments I have seen consistently, over and over again’ is, ‘Stella snatches somebody’s husband’; ‘Stella the husband snatched which is what has been going on. And I had sworn that I would never talk about it or even listen or stress myself about the issue. But I have decided to talk about it now, so that I end it once and for all .

First of all, let me paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes sense to you. Let’s go to the dictionary, when I looked up . The word snatch or steal it means forcefully taking something away from its original position or forcefully from its original position to another position; something that does not belong to you – that’s what I gathered from the word snatch or. Steal. So I looked at myself.

Stella, and I wondered, how is it possible to go to somebody’s home, and take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say follow me. (Let’s assume) You are a man, and according to their story, he is happily married inside his home. With his family. Complete and I walk into that home to forcefully take a man, able-bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s hand and you are there looking at me. How does that work?

So logically if people actually sit down and think about It intelligently, how do you snatch somebody from somebody and the person is there looking at you? So when you see a man who has settled ties with a woman and decides to move on with his life and you feel that there is something in this man that you like and he likes you, is there a problem there? I am not a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding myself. I was waiting for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I have heard for the past two to three years are rumours. They said, blogs said, this said. Nobody has been bold enough to confront me and ask me. So I say, if I steal something from somebody, and the person is really the owner of the thing, you come and ask me, ‘You took something from me, give me back’. But nobody was able to do that, And I am like, if I meet an able-bodied man that has left (his family) and loved one; that is not even in the same house with whoever and is not doing anything with whoever, and both parties had decided this thing (marriage) is not going anywhere, and they have gone their separate ways, why is it easier for the world to “blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with? Why is it that it is always that woman that broke that home?

The two people that did things that nobody was there, no body said something must have happened between the two people. It is always somebody else that is the problem. And I always say I do not tolerate blaming anybody for your own problems. I have had problems. After my late husband’s death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t work.

After eight months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it; why? We were both mature to understand that we came together; we knew that the thing was not working and instead of us to become enemies we will remain friends; let’s just let it go quietly. And we let it go quietly. I didn’t blame anybody else for doing it (for not making my second marriage work). He didn’t blame anybody else for doing it. So I am wondering, two people come together and they later go their separate ways; this one meets somebody, all of a sudden, it is that somebody that is the problem. Did anybody ever ask, what went wrong? Why would a man pick up his son and walk away from his marriage? Was there any time another woman was the problem until the man moved on with another woman? Nobody brought up Stella’s name. Then, all of a sudden, ‘oh he’s moved on with somebody else (snaps fingers); it must be her’. How? I am still waiting for somebody to come with proof to say ‘oh when they were in marriage, when they were still in a house, you came and did this. So the reason why I don’t like about it is that, there are some I would say to you and you would look at me like ‘oh wow!’ But I don’t want to be derogatory. I don’t want to toe the line that other people have toed by saying bad about people. I would never do that but the stories started coming.

At first I ignored the stories. I just kept quiet and then it was all over the place Google, blogs, and I am like, one day, one day, I would tell my story. There’s a reason why I am respecting certain people, respecting certain legal issues that are going on. So there might be some things I may not hammer on, but whenever you hear this person snatched, this person’s, you will ask the person, the person that they said was the original owner, What was the person-doing when they were snatching the person from him or her. I don’t get it. Do you understand? So I look at it, I am not ugly, I am not dumb;. Of all the men in the world, I will now go and look for somebody else’s own and say this is the one I want.

If he didn’t come out of it and say I want to be with you and you want to be with me, how? Why would I come and grab……? Am I that bad-looking? Am I that old? If I have 50 husbands, how does that affect you?

Does it change my work? I do my work, you enjoy it. It’s not about what I do in my bedroom that is your issue because you don’t really know what happens in people’s bedrooms.

You don’t know what happens in marriages. You don’t know why people like us are very weary of people knowing (about) our business. You don’t know how many marriages are suffering in silence. The issue of domestic violence that I am fighting for, it is part of it. There are marriages that they will tell themselves, especially celebrities we suffer from that. You are in a marriage and because you are worried about the press, the media, you stay in. You just stay in; you act, you play for the camera; you act like everything is okay. Then you get home and everything is hell because you know the moment you take that bold step and walk away, the backlash will be so bad. But you now ask yourself, to stay in and become a monster or to just quietly leave and preserve my sanity. When you leave to preserve your sanity, then the world wants to make you crazy. You understand. So, it’s a matter of choice. People make choices every day. They’ve made theirs, I have made mine; if you can’t deal with it, no problem. It is my life. Live yours and I will live mine. And I am. .Happy I am not ashamed; never a moment of regret.

On Daniel Ademinokan’s relationship with his ex “wife, Doris, what is your view?
Whatever issues a man has with his wife, when they deal with it, they deal with it I don’t come into it. And once you are done with it, and ready to move on, and you want to move on with me, and I want a life with you, it’s me and you. I don’t care what anybody else is thinking or saying. People have said this; it hurts because of the impression people tried to create but I looked at myself and asked myself, ‘Stella in your heart do you believe you did anything bad?’

If my answer is no, then my dear, there is no looking back. Because I am not a kid for me to make a decision and say I want to be with this person.


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Thank you all for the love & support so far! People have been asking me why I'm going on & on about this album! Well, it's because it's really gooooooood!!! Believe me! It is so dope! Also, it's the first time in a very looooooong time that I'm expressing my musical side as a producer. It's also being released under my #IndexTwoStudios Label so I've got every reason to be excited. This ain't just hype, it's a really blessed album. #TheAlternativeAlbum by @stelladamasus will be released on #April24 which is also Stella's birthday! Yeaaaahhh!! Album Produced by @dabishop007 for @indextwostudios and mixed by @kayomusiq. The Countdown has started. #April2016 #GetLoud #Addicted #LetsDance #GodLover #Music #Gospel #Faith #ATL #NYC #Africa #Nigeria #GospelMusic #DaBishopChronicles #Filmmaker #MusicMaker
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Spent the whole of last week in the studio with this multitalented woman @stelladamasus putting finishing touches to her #Album. As much as I've been playing music since the age of 9 (now I'm a few 'inches' from 40), and toured the world with bands as a bass player, (looooong before filmmaking took over), this has been my most ambitious musical journey ever. I hereby declare my huge and insane respect for every music producer out there! People just sit down and talk smack about a track not knowing what it takes to make the music happen and to continue rolling out "hit after hit". For filmmakers, you have an entire crew to run around and make it happen, even if you're a digital filmmaker. For music producers, it's mostly you locked up in one studio and creating a piece of art, figuring out the right tones, the right chords and the perfect melody to the song that will probably save someone from committing suicide, heal that woman with a broken heart, save somebody's marriage or even be the background music to the experience that leads to the creation of a baby's life. All that falls on the shoulders of the producer. Maaaaaaan! I have a new found respect and love for music producers!! It is good to celebrate the artists who sing the songs, but today, I really want to celebrate the producers, not because I'm in the studio killing myself as a filmmaker moonlighting as a music producer, but because the experience has opened my eyes to TRULY see how much work goes in to making 'a single' not to even mention a full album. So please tag any music producer you know & tell them how much you appreciate them. #JustMyThoughts I'm tagging a few producers I know: @donjazzy @eldeethedon @obaksolo @kayomusiq @bezidakula @mi_abaga @cobhamsasuquo #MusicProducer #MusicWeek #DaBishopChronicles #FilmMaker #MusicMaker #GodLover #JesusFreak
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